And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell. For every kind of beasts, and of birds, and of serpents, and of things in the sea, is tamed, and hath been tamed of mankind: But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison."

That is pretty powerful! Have you ever been guilty of using your tongue to start a fire? Oh my when I think of all of the trouble that has been started by a single tongue!!! May God help us to realize the power that is in the tongue for good and for evil and may we choose to use our tongue as an instrument of blessing and not cursing. May God help us.

I want to consider How To Speak With Grace

I. To speak with grace you need grace in your heart.

Colossians 3:16,

"Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord."

Before your speech can be "alway with grace," you need to have grace in your heart!

Why? Jesus said in Luke 6:45,

"A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil: for of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh."

A kind person says kind things because he has kindness in his heart.

A negative person says negative things because he has a negative heart.

A mean person says mean things because he has a mean heart.

What is inside of your heart will come out of your mouth! Jesus said in Matthew 15:18-19,

"But those things which proceed out of the mouth come forth from the heart; and they defile the man. For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies:" How is your heart? What is in your heart? That’s what will eventually come out!

Proverbs 25:11 says that words spoken with grace are,

"A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver."

It means that the words were just given in the right way and at the right time so that they appeared to the listener to be like golden apples in a silver basket or something that was just the right thing to give to someone.

II. Four Tests of Gracious Speech

  1. Is it True???

"... seasoned with salt ..."

Salt was used for preserving and purifying,

Seasoned speech is truthful

Eph 4:15 tells us to "Speak the truth in love ... "

Before you repeat a statement, MAKE SURE IT IS TRUE!!!

Someone said" I believe half of what I see, and nothing of what I hear!"

Just because someone said it doesn’t make it true!

Before you Believe something, Before you Repeat something, Make sure it is True!!!!!

2. Is it Complete?

It is easy to get half of the Story What is said may be true, but it is not complete! Before you say something, make sure you get all the story!

3.Is it Necessary????

What you say may be true, it may be complete, but is it NECESSARY???

Eph 4:15, "Speaking the truth in LOVE"!!!

1 Peter 4:8 says,

"And above all things have fervent charity (love) among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins."

Some of the most hurtful words I have ever heard have been preceded by the words, "but it is the truth."...

Just because it is the truth, doesn’t make it necessary! There are times when silence truly is golden!

I’ve always heard people say that if you don’t have anything good to say don’t say anything.

4. Is it Kind???

Romans 12:10 says,

"Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another;"

That means that you always put others before yourself.

Ephesians 4:31-32,

"Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you."

III. Suggestions for speaking with Grace

1. Determine to control your tongue

2. Say only good things about others

3. Remember your accountability

Matthew 12:36,

"But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment."

4. Ask the Lord to Help you! Psalms 141:3,

"Set a watch, O LORD, before my mouth; keep the door of my lips."