Here's the point, in spite of all she does for us, we often become impatient with her......we get so used to her taking care of things we come to expect it and are outraged that "those clothes are still dirty?" / "that's not ironed"? You're out of my favorite cookies? You know I like that over rice, where is it?

Love her patiently...just because she's tender to your needs is no reason to take advantage of her, it's reason to be patient and to love her all the more!
Kids & Teens: It is unfair for you to be more kind, considerate, patient w/ your friends and your friend's mothers than your own mother!

If you treated your friends like you treat your mom you wouldn't have friends, and if you treated their mom like you do yours, their mom wouldn't let their kid have anything to do with you! Your mom deserves better...

For us adults with living mothers: Love her patiently.

Dobson read on Focus on Family Radio-a letter from 80 yr. old woman on her birthday:
To all my children:

I suppose my upcoming birthday started my thoughts along these lines...This is a good time to tell you that what I truly want are things I can never get enough of, yet they are free. I want the intangibles. I would like for you to come and sit with me, and for you to be relaxed. We can talk, or we can be silent. I would just like for us to be together. I need your patience when I don't hear what you say the first time. I know how tiresome it is to always be repeating, but sometimes I must ask you to repeat. I need your patience when I think too much about the past, with my slowness and my set ways. I want you to be tolerant with what the years have done to me physically.

Please be understanding about my personal care habits. I spill things. I lose things. I get unduly excited when I try to figure out my bank statements. I can't remember what time to take my medication, or if I took it already. I take too many naps. Sometimes sleep helps to pass the day. Well, there you have it: Time, Patience, and Understanding. Those are priceless gifts that I want. Finally Paul wrote, "I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me." I know I can, too! It's a wonderful feeling to know His eye is on the sparrow and I know He cares for me. I guess being 80 isn't so bad after all!

Love, Mom

Love her patiently

  1. Love her Attentively.

Mothers listen as you pour out your heart…she has a sympathetic ear, always has…and even as an adult you've gone to her when you wanted someone who will really listen and understand...and she'll always be on your side.

Illustration: -A documentary last year of men who were going to be executed for capital crimes. They interviewed the men and their mothers, too. Invariably the moms would say every time, "He's such a good boy!" Interviewer: yes, but he slaughtered 37 w/ an axe... "I know, but he has a good heart!"

It's no wonder we like to talk to mom...she listens...but now she has issues, and now it's your turn to be her "rock"...and take time to listen...it's payback time!
"But, she's always complaining"...yes, just like you did!

Talks about herself/asks the same question over and over...

Illustration: - Susanna Wesley raised 19 children including John and Charles. There was a visitor in their home one day when Charles was 5, He asked his mom a question, and she answered him /5 minutes later he asked it again/the 3rd time he asked, she answered yet again...this happened 7 times total/the visitor asked Mrs. Wesley "why did you keep answering that question 7 times? / She answered, because, 6 would not have been enough!

Lord, help us to be that patient and attentive to our own parents as they grow older.
In older days, our parents have many fears/anxieties...may we treat them as we'd hope to be treated when we are in their shoes!

  1. Love her Gratefully.

Illustration:

-An Elementary school science class had been studying magnets, and how metal objects are attracted to them. At the end of the semester, the teacher put on the final exam this question: The word has 6 letters and starts w/ "M", it picks up things, what am I? Over half the children wrote "Mother"!

It would be impossible to number all the meals cooked, dirty diapers changed, sleepless nights, dishes cleanings, baths drawn, loads of laundry washed she has done...bottom line is, we owe her big time!

She needs a sincere thank you, and not just today, but from a genuinely thankful heart when least expected!

  1. Love her Generously.

There's nothing too good for her, we could never repay her, but we ought to die trying before she dies! She didn't spend on herself unless all your needs were met...she could easily do without, and now it's time for her to have something she wants!
She clears her schedule so she can run you around…she gives up opportunities so you can have more opportunities!

  1. Love her Honorably.

Exodus 20:12

"Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land which Yahweh your God gives you."

This is binding as long as your mother lives. Another command says children, obey...non-binding when you leave home, but "honor" is different!

"Yeah, but my mother wasn’t honorable!" Well, the Bible says nothing about that qualification…it only asks, is she your mother!

By the way, it's the only one of the 10 commandments, which includes a built-in promise of blessing!

When God created mothers:

When the good Lord created mothers, He was into His sixth day of overtime, when an angel appeared and said, "You're doing a lot of fiddling around on this one." The Lord replied, "have you seen the specs on this order? She has to be completely washable, but not plastic; Have 180 moveable parts ... all replaceable; Run on black coffee and leftovers; Have a lap that disappears when she stands up; A kiss that can cure anything from a broken leg to a disappointing love affair; And six pair of hands."
The angel shook his head slowly and said, "Six pair of hands? No way!"
"It's not the hands that are causing me problems," said the Lord. "It's the three pair of eyes that mothers have to have.

"One pair that sees through closed doors when she asks 'What are you kids doing in there?' when she already knows. Another in the back of her head that sees what she shouldn't, but what she needs to know, and of course the ones in front that look at a child when he goofs up and say, 'I understand and I love you,’ Without so much as uttering a word. "I'm so close to creating something so close to myself. Already, I have one who heals herself when she is sick ...can feed a family of six on one pound of hamburger ...and get a nine year old to stand under a shower. Not only can she think, she can reason and compromise."

Finally, the angel bent over and ran his finger across the cheek of the mother. "There's a leak," he pronounced, "I told you that you were trying to put too much in this model."

"That's not a leak," said the Lord, "it's a tear."

"What is it for?" asked the angel.

The Lord replied, "It's for joy, sadness, disappointment, pain, loneliness and pride."
"You're a genius!" shouted the angel.

With a somber look on his face, the Lord said, "I didn't put it there."
May the Lord help us never to be too busy for mom...if Jesus took the time and effort for her on the cross in His death, help us to love her while we have her in our life!

Different views of Mom:
4 YEARS OF AGE ~ My Mommy can do anything!
8 YEARS OF AGE ~ My Mom knows a lot! A whole lot!
12 YEARS OF AGE ~ My Mother doesn't really know quite everything.
14 YEARS OF AGE ~ Mom…duh!
16 YEARS OF AGE ~ My mom? She's like, so "not cool".
18 YEARS OF AGE ~ That old woman? She’s way out of touch!
25 YEARS OF AGE ~ Well, she might know a little bit about it.
35 YEARS OF AGE ~ Before we decide, let's get Mom's opinion.
45 YEARS OF AGE ~ Wonder what Mom thinks about it?
65 YEARS OF AGE ~ Wish I could talk it over with Mom.

What My Mother Taught Me
My mother taught me TO APPRECIATE A JOB WELL DONE:
"If you're going to kill each other, do it outside - I just finished cleaning!"

My mother taught me RELIGION:
"You better pray that will come out of the carpet."

My mother taught me about TIME TRAVEL:
"If you don't straighten up, I'm going to knock you into the middle of
next week!"

My mother taught me LOGIC:
"Because I said so, that's why."

My mother taught me FORESIGHT:
"Make sure you wear clean underwear, in case you're in an accident."

My mother taught me IRONY:
"Just keep laughing and I'll give you something to cry about."

My mother taught me about the science of OSMOSIS:
"Shut your mouth and eat your supper!"

My mother taught me about CONTORTIONISM:
"Will you look at the dirt on the back of your neck!"

My mother taught me about STAMINA:
"You'll sit there 'til all that spinach is finished."

My mother taught me about WEATHER:
"It looks as if a tornado swept through your room."

My mother taught me how to solve PHYSICS PROBLEMS:
"If I yelled because I saw a meteor coming toward you; would you listen then?"

My mother taught me about HYPOCRISY:
"If I've told you once, I've told you a million times-Don't Exaggerate!"

My mother taught me THE CIRCLE OF LIFE:
"I brought you into this world, and I can take you out."

My mother taught me about BEHAVIOR MODIFICATION:
"Stop acting like your father!"

My mother taught me about ENVY:
"There are millions of less fortunate children in this world who don't
have wonderful parents like you do!"

Verses about obedience to your Mom/parents or ways to show love to your Mom/parents

Ephesians 6:1-2,

"Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;)" Note** you show your love by your obedience, Jesus said If you love me keep my commandments.

Colossians 3:20,
"Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord."

I Timothy 5:4,

"But if any widow have children or nephews, let them learn first to shew piety (reverence, respect) at home, and to requite (repay) their parents: for that is good and acceptable before God."

II Timothy 3:1-2,

"This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient (unloving) to parents, unthankful, unholy,"

Old Testament Law regarding the treatment of Mothers:

Ex 20:12

Honour (The esteem due or paid to worth; high estimation.) thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

Ex 21:15

And he that smiteth his father, or his mother, shall be surely put to death.

Ex 21:17

And he that curseth his father, or his mother, shall surely be put to death.

Le 20:9

For every one that curseth his father or his mother shall be surely put to death: he hath cursed his father or his mother; his blood shall be upon him.